NICE TO BE OR NOT GRANDFATHER

Recently reflected on the fact of being or not being a grandfather having been, of course, previously father. 

Well, keeping with the theme in my head I have come to the conclusion that I am not and I don´t like to be.


Many will wonder who this guy says that neither wanted to be, it is not easy to explain and I have given a lot of thought into my coconut. 

Moments are, brief, I envy grandparents.  

Creatures of months or a few years are lovely. We move to the deepest tenderness and sublimate our most intimate feelings of protection and love for them. Who will not envy the feeling love for such small and fragile beings that you tend small arms and ask sweetheart buzzing. 

Soon get her little hand and can walk with them, and the best call you grandpa, abu, yayo or even if you're just a giant grandfather beside them.

Pleasure is huge every time a person sees his young grandchildren. The tenderness, time, dedication that sometimes could not be taken with children is for the grandson or granddaughter. 

So at least it was years ago, but are now changing customs and more than "grandchildren" have become " children "if children who care for, feed, watch, watch, and bring to school or daycare every day when they begin to no longer be infants.  

During two or three years have raised them at home as a second version of children grandfather or grandmother is not, it returns to being a parent, with hot flashes, trouble, fear, work, disappointments and all the delights that previously provided the first children. 


But those if we could educate them according to their / our criteria, the second children-grandchildren not even that, because WE ARE THEIR PARENTS, and if they are, children, sons or daughters are responsible to remember again and again. 

Sorry, we are only the lack of freedom which is re- raise children, or work, or money, is simply being parents and not simultaneously. 
entire job, new grandparents, like their parents, but the judgment or decision of how to educate their part is NOT suck. 

Nor is there any appreciation, contrary have to feel happy and grateful to be USEFUL, and enjoy the companionship and love of grandchildren at the expense of labor, lack of freedom, poor sleep and sometimes expensive. 

I have seen and heard bitter complaints from some grandparents that I know that SI much love their grandchildren practically raised them, but deep, deep down ARE SICK and tired of repeating the story of raising a few seconds children which soon lost sight of and which are NOT imply any right to review or make a educational rules. 

With everything exposed, and that callus prudence, repeat, 
"I am not grandfather" or desire to be. 

's hard to say something like, sure I lose something nice and great it makes us feel better, stand and endure the looks of pity other grandparents throwing me so sad for the failure to be a grandfather like them, but sometimes, in the background, I envy not address the responsibilities, lack of freedom and work to suffer them. 

I think society, government, advertising, media abuse praising "the great work being done by grandparents" but do little to THEM. 

Fine words, that good they are, they work so necessary do, and little else. 

When these same grandparents look alone, cornered in their homes or in a nursing home, and neither the grandchildren or the children to go to see 
the old , the elderly who looked after them and helped them when it was necessary, who will remember the thousands of hours spent doing work that was not for them, the love they showed towards small, now people "never have time" going to see them, to give them love, give back a little of the love received, and then everyone that?. 

What people say about them, government, consumer and inhumane society in which we live, and finally the children and grandchildren to looked after and are too busy to care for their elderly or dedicate some time of your time to give them company and affection. 


They work as useful and necessary grandfathers do, replacing the parents, and little appreciation are then when they need the love of those who cared and recognition of that hypocrite Society praising them when they are USEFUL. 


then die alone, thousands of them in their homes without anyone will worry the least. 

Clearly it is my opinion based on what I've seen and I see constantly and repeatedly. 

gatufo 

(which has no grandchildren or inclination, but he has a cat who adores him)